How To Manage Anger
Before you dive into this article, take a few moments think
about following:
How you want your
life to be:
a) Happy b)Un
Happy
a) With Friends b)without friends
a)Peaceful b)Disturbed
a) Happy Family b)
Broken family
a) Sound Sleep b)
Disturb Sleep
a)Love b)
Hatred
If you have chosen “a” from the above list and you wish to achieve
these, you need to think seriously about managing your anger.
All the traits mentioned above are the natural instincts of
a human being, Anger is against the basic instincts of human being,
no one wants unhappiness, Hatred, Disturbance, enmity, broken family ro anything
that matter from the above list which is not exhaustive.
Then the question arises why we get angry?
Anger is not the cause it is the consequence of one’s emotional
state, consequences cannot be managed hence anger cannot be managed.
There are various internal and external factors that act as a stimulus and result in anger or outburst.
Internal factors could be not satisfied with the job, financial
problems, problems in the family, health-related issues etc etc.
External factors could be anything like a traffic jam, not
getting the right response from another person, honesty& Intelligence or a commitment by shown by others etc etc.
It is all about anger understanding. Understanding the
feeling, emotions which led one to become angry. This called Emotional
Intelligence. The following figures explain it:
Higher the emotional Intelligence or Emotional Quotient one
has, the output for the stimulus will be a response rather than a reaction.
One of the best book written on this subject is (Emotional
Intelligence) by Daniel Goleman.
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